7 Habits (& non-Habits) of At-Peace People

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Have you ever met someone who seemed that they were completely at peace?

Maybe they were super easy-going, and it made you want to be around them just to get a glimpse of what it feels like. Maybe you could just sense that nothing in this world or beyond it was gnawing at them inside.

That’s what it feels like to not be at peace — it’s like something is constantly gnawing at you. And until you come to terms with it, that incessant and bothersome feeling will continue until it eventually consumes you.

The thing about peace is that achieving it does not typically happen via a linear process. In contrast, it’s often something to be maintained. Inner peace can be found and then lost, and then found again.

Why? Because new obstacles present themselves in life, simple as that.

Being at peace with your life in its current stage is great, but something can always come along and throw you all off balance. It’s not easy learning to accept things as they come without experiencing any negative feelings and letting them upset your inner peace.

In fact, even the most devout monks have done years and years of learning and training in order to reach the levels of peace they experience, and which we’d all probably love to have.

Having done some traveling in countries and cities that incorporate yoga and meditation as a cornerstone of life, I’ve met swamis, yoga teacher trainers, and even fellow yoga teachers who had certainly reached a level of zen most of us aspire to. I’ve made a list of habits (and non-habits) below that those people enact in their everyday lives.

I’m going to reference one of my favorite books of all time here. If you haven’t read Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom, you need to. It’s about a dying man’s advice to his student, who ends up closely befriending him and helping care for him. It’s beautiful.

“Don’t cling to things, because everything is impermanent… But detachment doesn’t mean you don’t let the experience penetrate you.
On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully. That’s how you are able to leave it…You’re afraid of the pain, you’re afraid of the grief… But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your head even, you experience them fully and completely. You know what pain is. You know what love is. ‘All right. I have experienced that emotion. I recognize that emotion. Now I need to detach from that emotion for a moment.’”

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