And a piece of advice for reframing your relationship to pain.

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Life really is all about the way you react to the things that happen to you. I’ve been hearing that and seeing quotes about it for years, but the concept always frustrated me. “So I’m just supposed to lie down and take it?” I’d ask the universe. I’m expected to have a positive attitude about everything, even if I hate that it’s happening?

Not exactly. What I’ve come to realize is that those quotes about controlling your reaction to bad things happening to you aren’t advising that you do…

There are two ways a heart can break.

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Fiona watched her precious grandchildren play, and she wondered what it would’ve been like to have felt this joy with him. It took her back to that day, that first 60 seconds.

As the judge slammed his gavel down, the sound waves of the impact echoed through the room. The middle-aged man next to Fiona seemed to crumple into the bench. She stared at him, confused. Who was this man? Why was he here, now? She could almost hear his heart imploding inside him, then shattering violently outward. In these first thirty seconds, time slowed. She watched him with a…

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Sharks were now thrashing through the ocean water that surrounded the people Cara loved. The very people who had just accepted her and taken her in. And it was all her fault.

How did she get here? Exploitation and blackmail — that was how. Someone, an evil someone named Septus Blackwell, had found out her darkest secret and threatened to expose her if she didn’t disclose the island’s location. The very same location where the girl she loved resided.

They’d been a hunted community, you see. They had been living blissfully distant from society for months now. But someone found…

I looked in the mirror and didn’t recognize myself one bit

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As I signed autographs at my film’s debut that recently jump-started my dream acting career, I thought back to that day in front of the mirror. I knew for a fact that I was in the wrong body that day.

I stared at my reflection, looking deep into those brown eyes, and wondered why I couldn’t recognize myself. Whose body was this? I had never felt so misplaced. It was like being in a foreign country starkly different from my own. Except this was my body. I felt this person staring back at me was somehow, simply, not me.


And when you simply go a different route to work.

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Monotony Can Make Us 2D

It’s no secret that when you’re stuck in the same place all the time, things can get monotonous. You may even start to notice yourself becoming very ‘flat’. It’s almost like you’re losing touch with all the other facets of yourself that you might’ve forgotten about. And that’s exactly why we often don’t notice how two-dimensional we’ve become until we go on an adventure and get reintroduced to those bonus versions of ourselves that exist in other spaces.

This feeling has been magnified for many in the last year or so since most people haven’t been able to travel. It’s…

Although you probably think you want to be.

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I’ve known that I’m considered primarily introverted in my personality for years. I only learned that I have an avoidant attachment style very recently. This only comes to light, I suppose, when you’re actively dating and entering new relationships. It’s especially magnifying when the person you’re dating has a totally different attachment style to your own. But more on that later.

Firstly, let’s talk about what makes someone an avoidant introvert. We’ll break up the phrase and start with the more commonly used word: introvert. …

Learn unique and natural ways that you can ease your symptoms

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If your PMS is like a tornado destroying everything in its path each month — and you feel like you spend the rest of it trying to put the pieces back together, it could be PMDD.

I want to bring awareness to this condition, because I suffered for years in the dark. Awareness can open up so many doors to feeling better and suffering less every single month of your life.

“The actual prevalence is estimated to be even higher, but many women may not come forward regarding their concerns because of fear of stigmatization.”

What PMDD is, exactly

PMDD stands for Premenstrual Dysphoric…

Practical ways to overcome those resulting bad feelings

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The thing about rejection

As I’m sure we can all agree, getting rejected seriously sucks. Especially when you’ve spent a lot of time writing these long form articles. Or, when you’ve written a whole novel, a feature film script, etc. I’ve done it all and I’ve been rejected for it all.

But the fact is, it’s a cornerstone of being a writer. You literally cannot have the success without a little rejection. Sometimes, unfortunately, it’s a lot of rejection. Before we delve into anything else, it’s important you accept that. …

My 1-year journey to making a sustainable income

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I’ve been a freelance writer for years, but I only started making real money about a year ago. There was also a significant change in the things I did — this didn’t just happen by chance. So as someone who had been working toward this result since getting into the business, I can tell you exactly what I did differently that suddenly started yielding results. I’ll also enlighten you on the things I’ve learned along the way.

Although the path might differ for everyone, some things are pretty constant. Once you see the logic behind those things they’ll probably seem…

A year in, now.

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Arya walked around the streets of this grey, empty city during a seemingly ever-extended lockdown. She had lost count of the days they’d been in this one, but what she could easily count was the amount of people she’d interacted with in the last month. She could count them on one hand, in fact. The day for which the city’s inhabitants had all been holding their breath had recently passed, but the government decided to extend it. They were all suffocating now. Those who had come up for a breath of fresh air had been fined considerably.

Arya looked to…

Kim Michelle

Born writer + passionate traveler + yoga instructor = content on travel & adventure, mental health & mindfulness, goals & motivation, love & magic ✨

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