Dear inconsistent people,
What is the point? Why do you lead people along the way you do?
Can you simply not decide if you actually want to be in someone else’s life or not?
Are you just so busy? So busy, in fact, that you post on social media all the time — something that probably takes a lot longer than sending a simple text or maybe even making a phone call.
No, you’re right. Who does that anymore? That’d be way too much. You wouldn’t want to put yourself at the risk of appearing to care.
So what is it? Is it all a part of of some game I didn’t know we were supposed to be playing? Should I, too, stop being so consistent in my relationships?
Should I stop prioritizing people I actually care about? Just give up making a conscious effort to keep in touch, to reply back for weeks or months on end?
No, I’m not going to do that because it makes zero sense. I don’t try and string people along just to avoid having to do what I clearly need to do in that scenario: cut them out of my life.
And that’s what you need to do, inconsistent people. You truly need to stop wasting people’s time and decide. Don’t be that annoying person who doesn’t know what they want to eat, or who they care about.
Having a hard time being able to tell what you want? Here’s a simple test: do you find yourself dreading plans you make with someone? Do you lack the desire or motivation to reply to their messages? Have you lost interest in maintaining that person’s friendship?
If you answered ‘yes’ to any of the above, congratulations — it’s time for you to move on and stop confusing that person. I know “ghosting” and letting things “fizzle out” is the usually the way we all handle these situations.
If you can’t face telling that person straight up, then at least stick to your ghosting, OK? Do not just never reply to texts, but then send social media tags and videos, etc. It sends an extremely confusing message.
So don’t check up on me, please. If this is you, we don’t need to speak every few months or even twice a year. You don’t have to tell me ‘happy birthday’. You don’t need to do anything, in fact, that feels like a chore.
Stop giving people who you don’t ‘have time for’ mixed signals. Stop giving them false hope — it’s cruel. Just let it be, and let them move on.
Every led-on person out there.