Sometimes, hearing something more than once can really drive it home.
Haven’t you ever noticed how making that connection from being told something once, and then reading it somewhere else a second time, for example, seems to help it resonate in your brain?
This happens with language learning, as well.
As a matter of fact, let’s think of the How-To Formula for making changes in your life, as a new language that you must learn. We’ll call it the New Life Language (NLL).
The other day, I learned what would represent a mere phrase from the “NLL,” but still. Progress. And I did so by making 4 simple connections.
When I was living in New Zealand, I came across quite a mysterious concept in a book called “Becoming Supernatural” by Joe Dispenza.
“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self,” Dispenza explains.
I read more in detail, and it started to make a lot of sense.
The point he’s trying to make is that the more you adapt the typical, repetitive habits you may not even realize you have in your life, the more in control you can be.
It’s easy, and normal, to fall into comfortable patterns and routines. It’s human, hence the title of Dispenza’s book — it implies that breaking these patterns is essentially an act against our natural tendencies. It is going above and beyond the norm.
But doing this is how people are able to change their realities. This is how people heal themselves, and how people achieve success against all odds.
Making even the smallest tweak to your habits can create a larger ripple effect than you, or I, can even imagine.
How does it work?
I’ve been experimenting with this myself, lately, so I can tell you firsthand:
Normally, my alarm goes off at 7:25 am.
I snooze it 2–4 times (I am not a morning person).
My commute to work is an hour long, and I have to be there at 9 am.
So, depending on when I wake up, I may only leave fifteen or so minutes for myself to get ready. Not enough, right?
I never really had a “morning routine.” Not until recently, anyway.
I read a Medium post about morning routines and their influence on a person’s success in life. This was connection #2. Same concept as the first, but different angle. It was simply another example of the universe urging me to make some changes.
“If only this woman would make a few little tweaks, oh what she’d accomplish,” it seemed to be saying.
But I remained stubborn per usual, taking note of my love for the idea, but not actually implementing the changes into my life.
Connection #3 started to really drive it home for me. My boyfriend lives in England, and surprised me by leaving a cute little book in my mini library from his most recent visit. It’s chock-full of inspiring tips on how to energize mentally, physically, and emotionally.
As I was flipping through the book the other day, I noticed a whole section about habit-tweaking. There it was again.
There was even a connection #4 which finally pushed me into actual implementation. I attended a yin yoga class the other day, and in this class, the instructor made a point to insist everyone not focus on the end result, the final pose we were all working toward.
She emphasized throughout the whole class that we should simply do what we could. This was strange for me — I learned yoga under stricter methods, where we were pushed beyond our limits. This yin concept was not physically challenging for me, but mentally stimulating. I was intrigued.
She finished the class with this little gem. “Take this moment to think about starting new, starting fresh, from here,” she said. Simple. Powerful.
Without even realizing it at the time, it had a huge impact on my subconscious.
It reminded me that I don’t need to do it all at once. I don’t need to put SO much effing pressure on myself!
I needed that lesson, badly. And the relation it has to the first 3 connections is this:
It allowed me to start my habit changing with simple little tweaks versus expecting myself to change my whole life around in one go.
I’d been putting so much pressure on myself to hurry up and be successful that I’d forgotten to be realistic and kind to myself. I was inadvertently avoiding the changes, seemingly ignoring everyone’s — my boyfriend’s, Joe Dispenza’s, the universe’s — advice because I was intimidated by the apparent size of the changes that needed to be made.
Being a yoga instructor as well, I teach self-kindness to my students. Sometimes, though, I suppose we all need a little reminding of our own knowledge.
So what did I do?
Having received my own, kinder, more loving permission to start fresh while not expecting so much, I actually was more motivated to make changes. I’d begun cracking the code of the NLL.
The next morning, I snoozed my alarm once. Better.
I got out of bed, and actually did all the things I wanted to do within my target morning routine, a list I’d made after reading the Medium post mentioned above.
That included doing first something very simple. I wanted to start drinking a glass of water before doing anything else. That was actually all I intended for that day.
But! Because I did that and felt so good about it, I felt compelled to continue on down my list: a little sun salutation, making my bed, and leaving enough time to make myself a healthy breakfast before heading out.
Doing these little things in my morning gave me such a different mindset. Instead of leaving it all up to chance and inherently starting my day off with little to no control, I’d taken hold of the reins.
Such small changes immediately affected my thoughts. I noticed that they were more positive, and I already felt accomplished. This spurred motivation that I’d been severely lacking the past few weeks.
So, don’t make your tasks so BIG. Small and easy habit tweaks can create such a ripple effect that your current reality completely changes.
Changing habits can subsequently lead to an evolution in your thinking pattern. Thinking you can and will achieve something will encourage you to take actions toward actually doing it.
I believe that someone can go from being unsuccessful, unhappy in their job, and unlucky in love to living in their absolute best version of life that exists. That’s the power that making these smalls changes holds.
I’m proof of just how much can change by tweaking a few habits for one day. Imagine what you can do after a month, or a year.
Once you realize how much control you actually have, you begin understanding the New Life Language, and in doing so you access your full, amazing potential.